Rethinking Masculinity: Discussion at Anibar 15’s second panel

Bindi Skeja, Erblin Ajdini and Agon Maliqi and moderated by Granit Gashi discussed the topic of “Rethinking Masculinity”.

The second panel for the 15th edition of Anibar “Smash the patriarchy” was held on the 18th July. The three panelists: Bindi Skeja, Erblin Ajdini and Agon Maliqi and moderated by Granit Gashi discussed the topic of “Rethinking Masculinity”.

 

In traditional societies, gender roles are determined by social values and norms, roles which are often rigid and create a patriarchal system with marked differences between men and women, both in the political, social and individual spheres. From this system expectations are created for men to represent masculinity in the traditional sense, creating a narrow definition of it. This rigid definition of masculinity encourages men to suppress emotions because expressing these emotions is seen as a sign of weakness, thus harming their mental and physical health. Consequently, in this context the need to challenge traditional concepts of masculinity becomes increasingly clear.

 

What does it mean to be a man in the context of the patriarchal system? How do traditional gender roles affect men’s emotional well-being? What are the consequences of emotional suppression? How can we promote healthy expressions of masculinity so that men internalize emotional intelligence? Why do men reject feminist discourse?

 

Agon Maliqi answers that the rejection of feminist discourse by men stems from a perceived loss of privilege. He notes that men, who are conditioned to feel privileged and entitled, might feel victimized when women enter spaces they consider their own. The pressure to conform to traditional masculinity further complicates this issue. Maliqi emphasizes the importance of giving men the opportunity to view themselves from different perspectives, acknowledging that this struggle will be long-lasting. He stresses that progress is neither guaranteed nor linear and underscores the need for educating people, especially within institutions.

 

Erblin Ajdini highlights that one does not need to be oppressed to understand the oppression of others. He views protests as a powerful means of resistance rather than mere symbolic actions.

 

Bindi Skeja discusses how societal systems, like patriarchy and capitalism, are deeply ingrained in people. He elaborates on how the false promises of patriarchy negatively impact men’s mental health and stresses the importance of discussing the intersectionality and interconnectedness of various issues. Skeja advocates for the constant and ongoing process of rethinking masculinity.

 

The panel provided participants with the opportunity to ask questions and explore practical approaches to rethinking masculinity.